How we keep the spark alive
I am so lucky to say that mine and Ben's relationship is so special - it's filled with happiness and joy and friendship, and, most importantly, love. And I feel so blessed. Before Ben, I had a few very unhealthy relationships. But without those, I don't think I would have been able to recognize what it is I should have been looking for all along: Ben. He is my sun, my moon and my stars. My whole world. He is my very best friend and the one who can make me smile at just the thought of him.
But that's not to say that everything is perfect one-hundred percent of the time. Life can get in the way. Jobs can get in the way. Schedules can get in the way. Stress can get in the way. But recently Ben and I were able to get away to Europe for a some much-needed time together and it was exactly what we needed - a little adventure together. And that got me thinking... all you need is time well spent together to feel refreshed together.
So I thought it might be fun to share how we keep the spark alive in our relationship.
We share our feelings openly
We talk. A lot. We tell each other everything (even the TMI stuff haha). From how our days were to what we ate to how we feel about one another. And if one of us wants something from the other, we are not scared to share it openly and genuinely listen to one another. It's really freeing to feel so honest and open and not scared of how the other will react. No games. Just honesty.
We put our relationship before ourselves
Love is unselfish. And we are utterly loyal to one another consider each other when making decisions. Ben and I have never gone off on our own and planned, say, a trip, without talking to the other first. We make decisions together. Ben has said 'no' sadly to several bachelor party invitations because we were going through a tough time with IVF and the loss of our babies and he knew he should be there for me. He is so thoughtful and it's the small acts like these that make a world of difference.
We find things to do together
Ben loves golf, I love shopping. But that doesn't mean we don't do these things on our own. If Ben wants to golf, I will go walk nine holes with him. Or hell, if he hasn't golfed in a while, I will suggest we go hit the links. And Ben is always more than willing to head to the mall with me and offers to hold my bags while he gives genuine input on what I am trying on (even when I know he is bored). We do things for one another that we know will make the other happy. But we also like to find things we both enjoy that we can do together. Like cooking together on Sunday's, hiking, road biking, and playing tennis on weekends, playing cards and watching our favorite shows in the evenings. It's all about togetherness.
We take time for each other
If Ben has to work late a few days, he will make it a point to leave early on another day just to take me on a date or head out for a sunset hike. And when he walks in the door, no matter what I am working on I put it down to say hi and spend some QT time together. I also wake up every morning suuuuper early (despite how tired I am) just to join him at the gym or grab coffee together before he heads off to work. Any time we spend together is time well spent.
We keep our relationship balanced
Neither one of us has more power in the relationship than the other. When I look at him I have stars in my eyes and there's not a bone in my body that would ever want to take advantage of him or his unrelenting kindness. And I know I can say the same for him. In some of my past relationships it was all about who held the power. It's just a mind f*ck. I think it's important to have balance in your relationship and mutual respect.
Anyway, sorry for my blabbering. I wrote this post on a whim because just looking at these photos of my handsome hubby makes me swoon. And I love seeing the attention on him. He's such a hubba-hubba-hunk.
What do you guys do to keep the spark alive in your relationship? I would love to hear and swap ideas!
How we keep the spark alive
I am so lucky to say that mine and Ben's relationship is so special - it's filled with happiness and joy and friendship, and, most importantly, love. And I feel so blessed. Before Ben, I had a few very unhealthy relationships. But without those, I don't think I would have been able to recognize what it is I should have been looking for all along...