Mother's Day: for a long time this was one of the hardest days of my life. The day I was reminded of all that I wasn't but wanted to be... a mom. I felt so isolated and invisible. And just so dang sad. I remember being in church and the well-meaning clerical leadership asking all mothers to stand and be recognized. It took a lot for me to sit there, in my lonely seat, and hold back my tears. Tears of sadness and envy but also tears of love and appreciation for all those women who are so lucky to call themselves a mom. No, it wasn't easy heading out to brunch and being indiscriminately wished a 'Happy Mother's Day.'
But my husband and my Mom have always been there to help try to cheer me up, writing me thoughtful cards of what a wonderful 'someday mother' I would be.
But I know I am not the only one. Mother's Day is tough for a lot of people. One in eight, in fact. But just because you don't have children under your roof doesn't mean you're not a mom and don't deserve to be celebrated.
Women of all roles should be celebrated: from mother's to step-mothers to adopted mothers to soon-to-be mother's to trying-to-be mothers to dog (or cat) mothers.
Mother's Day is all about celebrating what it means to be a mom... and to me, being a mom means unconditionally loving and knowing a soul before you have even met them. It's putting others before yourself and being willing to catch them when they fall. It's having a love that grows each day and never dies. It's having a strong heart and a strong soul and engaging in the work of nurturing. But it's not just children who need the love of a mother. It's your loving little pet who cries and jumps for joy at the sight of you, it's your husband who needs a snuggle after a long day, it's your sister who needs a shoulder to cry on, it's your father who needs help figuring out how to make his own lunch, it's your brother who just got out of a bad relationship. A mother is someone who provides a feeling of comfort. Someone you can call on that knows how to make you feel better without saying anything at all.
So stand with me this Mother's Day in celebrating women of all motherly roles. Whether they are a mom, trying to become a mom or are a pet-mom to the furriest of friends.
I am blessed and honored to be spending this Mother's Day with my people. The ones I love and will always be there for, and who I know will always be there for me.
Thank you, Ben, for making this day special for me... not just this year, but every year that I have known you.
To celebrate this momentous day for us, I just want to be with my little family, and we decided to celebrate a little early by skipping the typical brunch this past weekend and headed out for a Mother's Day family picnic in the desert. Ben made us mouthwatering vanilla pancakes (mmm) with berries and whipped cream, mimosas and pineapple (my fave) to celebrate, and surprised me (and Luna) with the most gorgeous floral bouquets from 1-800-Flowers.com. Their 2018 Mother's Day collection is perfect for the Mom's and someday-Mom's in your life.
You can check out their original selection online in a broad range of price points. Flowers are honestly such a great way to tell the ones you love how important they are to you and share a special connecting moment with them.